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What is the Women’s Funding Network?

Q: What is the Women's Funding Network?   A: The Women's Funding Network celebrates its 30th anniversary in 2014. The network of funds was originally started by a group of 20 leaders who believed that philanthropy and social changes needed to recognize and include women and girls issues. The WFN is now a network of more than 160 Women's Funds in 30 countries. Today, the Women's Funding Network is the largest philanthropic network in the world devoted to improving the lives of women and girls. For more information, visit

By | May 1st, 2014|Categories: QandAs|0 Comments

Bookmark: Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct by P.M. Forni

Bookmark: Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct by P.M. Forni Cofounder of the Johns Hopkins Civility Project, author P.M. Forni reminds us, "Just about the most important thing we do in life is interacting with other human beings." Not only does he remind us how important such interaction is, but also how far we have strayed in our everyday lives from being civil and polite in all we do. With a gentle reminder that "All we have to do is stop, think about it, and then act," Forni provides the reader with a step-by-step guide to rediscovering good and sensible manners for a more stress-free and enjoyable life. This gem of a book is a must read. [...]

By | May 1st, 2014|Categories: Book Reviews|0 Comments

“Cart Before the Horse” Philanthropy

From talking with professional tax and legal advisors, there seems to be a plethora of well- informed and knowledgeable advisors who advocate “cart before the horse” philanthropy to their clients. Such philanthropic advice comes in several varieties, and most often begins with “How.” Perhaps the advisor asks, “How much do you want to save in taxes?” or “How would you like to avoid capital gains on your sale of appreciated securities?” or “How much do you want to leave to your favorite charity?” Yes, in the right context, these questions are certainly valid, but when asked in regard to philanthropic matters, they tend to place the “cart before the horse.” For an advisor to engage a client in meaningful dialogue [...]

Bookmark: The Generosity Network by Jennifer McCrea and Jeffrey C. Walker with Karl Weber

Bookmark: The Generosity Network by Jennifer McCrea and Jeffrey C. Walker with Karl Weber The Generosity Network weaves a web of generosity and collaboration, which is a win-win for everyone and every cause -- from local to global. The authors' ability to define and humanize the relationship building process that can move a person from transactional to transformational philanthropy makes this a must-read for donors, funders, nonprofit executive and fundraisers. This book gives insight into how our personal attitudes about money and giving may inhibit our generosity. It also provides realistic insight and the road map to be the philanthropist we can be and how to turn dreams into reality and results. If you want to tell a compelling [...]

By | February 7th, 2014|Categories: Book Reviews|0 Comments

How do you define eudaimonia?

Q: How do you define eudaimonia? A: Eudaimonia is the Greek word used by philosophers that translates to "well-being of the soul." According to Aristotle in his Nicomachean Ethics, the wellbeing of the soul is achieved through arête, defined as living in excellence and virtue. He identifies the moral virtues as prudence, justice, fortitude and temperance. A virtuous life according to Aristotle is a balanced life with neither too much nor too little of each virtue.

By | February 6th, 2014|Categories: QandAs|0 Comments

Where is the balance between the heart and head in philanthropy?

In today’s technological age, I believe it is very easy to get caught up in the over analysis of the reasons people give. In recent decades there has been significant research and writings on what motivates donors to do what they do and why. Elizabeth Svoboda’s August 2013 Wall Street Journal article, “Hard-Wired for Giving,” shows some scientific evidence behind giving. She reports that experiments in 2007 by University of Oregon economist Dr. Bill Harbaugh and psychologist Ulrich Mayr used an MRI scanner to pinpoint exactly what goes on in a person’s brain when they decide to give to charity. Results showed that “areas of the brain associated with the processing of unexpected rewards, such as the nucleus accumbens lit up. [...]

When did the ladies who lunch become the ladies who lead?

Make no mistake there’s been a quiet transformation of leadership in the philanthropic community. Perhaps you missed its subtle arrival. It’s not the flamboyant style of the mighty tycoons of the past, driven by ego; but rather it’s an elegant and fashionable movement driven by sensibility and purpose. Ladies who lead are making waves for the greater good by living authentic lives fostering the ideals of creativity, collaboration, and giving both time and money. Ladies who lead are using “time tested ‘women’s ways’ of leading, (that) have become the gold standard for great leaders of both genders, and the building blocks for success in today’s global economy,” writes Martha Mayhood Mertz in Becoming ATHENA: Eight Principles of Enlightened Leadership. What’s good [...]

Are there websites with information on how to volunteer?

Q: Are there websites with information on how to volunteer? A: Absolutely. In addition to contacting your local United Way or Community Foundation. These sites offer some wonderful volunteer resources. visit,, and

By | October 1st, 2013|Categories: QandAs|0 Comments

Bookmark: The Thinking Life: How to Thrive in the Age of Distraction by P. M. Forni

Bookmark: The Thinking Life: How to Thrive in the Age of Distraction by P. M. Forni In this topsy-turvy world, who among us has the luxury to sit down in a quiet place and think about the life we want to live? Author P. M. Forni makes an extremely compelling case as to why we must find the time to make an earnest self-examination of the important things in our life. Why? Because, "If life is valuable," says Forni, "it only makes sense to attend to it constantly." And giving attention to the present moment is one way to seek relief from the frenzy and inefficient acts of multi-tasking that seem to be today's norm. In 12 short chapters, [...]

By | October 1st, 2013|Categories: Book Reviews|0 Comments

Who do philanthropists answer to?

If one subscribes to the axiom that success is in the “eye of the beholder,” then the question becomes, “Who is the beholder?” Is it the philanthropist who gives? Is it the organization that accepts? Is it the beneficiary who receives? Who has the primary responsibility of defining success and determining the metrics with which to define what success means? If one maintains that philanthropy is not a commodity defined by market supply and demand but rather the result of a personal journey driven by values and beliefs, then perhaps to a great extent, the responsibility of defining success falls squarely on the philanthropist who gives. There is a significant and responsible discussion taking place in the nonprofit profession as [...]

Bookmark: Everyone Wants Your Money: Helping You Navigate Through Philanthropy by Dr. Gray Keller

Bookmark: Everyone Wants Your Money: Helping You Navigate Through Philanthropy by Dr. Gray Keller From the title, you may expect the message in this book to be most appropriate for donors. And while that may be Dr. Gray Keller's intent, I believe his wisdom, practical advice and stories speak directly to the heart of every development and fundraising professional. Dr. Keller is a philosopher, poet, and philanthropist with degrees in philosophy, theology and leadership. His trifecta of experiences challenge both donors and gift planners to reflect on who we are, what we do, why we do it, and how to be a strategic philanthropic leader. "As a philanthropic leader," writes Keller, "You will have to decide to give in [...]

By | September 16th, 2013|Categories: Book Reviews|0 Comments

Is there a resource for children’s gifts and books to learn about giving?

Q: Is there a resource for children's gifts and books to learn about giving? A: Yes. The National Center for Family Philanthropy has an excellent website, I encourage you to visit the site for both children and adult resources. Correction to last month's "Ask Margaret" book recommendation: Shel Silverstein (not Shel Silverman) is the author of The Giving Tree. Thank you, Lori E. Gold, for bringing this to our attention.

By | September 2nd, 2013|Categories: QandAs|0 Comments

Erase the Myth of Scarcity and Mindset of Fear

Women are the greatest economy on earth. Philanthropy offers women a platform for their abundance for two specific reasons: 1) The political and corporate sectors have yet to fully recognize the extraordinary value feminine strengths of caring, collaboration, connecting, and consensus building bring to our dysfunctional society. 2) Women’s attitudes regarding the accumulation and use of money are different from those of men. For men, the accumulation of money is the goal – it defines status and power. For women the accumulation of money is a means to an end – it gives women the freedom and the ability to impact society and support the causes that make their hearts sing. Yet, I believe, women’s full potential for abundant philanthropic [...]

Bookmark: Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success by Adam Grant

Bookmark: Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success by Adam Grant There are three types of people: givers, takers and matchers -- each with their own impact on success. Author Adam Grant's research reveals some surprising results. "There is something distinctive that happens when givers succeed -- it spreads and cascades," according to Grant. "Givers succeed in a way that creates a ripple effect, enhancing the success of people around them." This is good news for nonprofit and corporate executives who, more and more, rely on collaboration and team initiatives to solve problems and create value for their donors and clients. The author makes the case that giver values, such as helpfulness, responsibility, social justice, and compassion have [...]

By | August 1st, 2013|Categories: Book Reviews|0 Comments

Can you recommend a children’s book on the topic of giving?

Q: Can you recommend a children's book on the topic of giving? A: The Giving Tree by Shel Silverman, published in 1964, remains a favorite with children and adults.

By | August 1st, 2013|Categories: QandAs|0 Comments

Take time to think and reflect

Perhaps the time has come to re-examine our thinking about values and valuables. Is our country’s moral compass still pointing true north? Can conspicuous compassion temper conspicuous consumption? Does de Tocqueville’s doctrine of “self-interest rightly understood” have a place in our high-tech interdependent world economy? History gives us many places and people where one can look for some both thought provoking commentary and down to earth common sense. Author Mark Twain for sure; possibly the infamous New York Yankee manager, Yogi Berra for some; the ancient Greek philosophers for solace. Recently I was handed a list of “The Ten Cannots,” attributed to the 20th century religions leader, William J. H. Boetcker. They struck a chord with me, and so I [...]

Bookmark: The Female Vision by Sally Helgesen and Julie Johnson

Bookmark: The Female Vision by Sally Helgesen and Julie Johnson There seems to be a plethora of books about the positive virtues of seeing and interpreting the current state-of-the-world from a women's point of view. The authors recognize that we are approaching a tipping point of a change of leadership style in all three sectors of society -- corporate, government and nonprofit (sometimes referred to as the third sector). If one believes, as I and many of my colleagues do, that society's moral compass no longer points due north, the principles set forth in this book provide a road map to get us back on course. In fact, one of the three principles, "Women's tendency to analyze information in [...]

By | June 2nd, 2013|Categories: Book Reviews|0 Comments

What do gift planners mean by the “ultimate gift”?

Q: What do gift planners mean by the "ultimate gift"? A: According Debra Ashton, author of The Complete Guide to Planned Giving, the ultimate gift is "not the method a person uses to give the gift, but rather the magnitude of and the motivation for the gift." She goes on to say, "Ultimate gift fundraising, then, depends on our ability to build and develop long-term relationships with a few special givers."

By | June 2nd, 2013|Categories: QandAs|0 Comments

Numbers Never Tell All

For many years, the sign hanging on the wall in Albert Einstein’s Princeton office read, “Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts.” This is quite true in philanthropy, especially when it comes to the fundraising and administrative costs which are often analyzed in terms of a percent or ratio of operating expenses. Who is to say the current formulas used by rating agencies to hallmark the qualities of an efficient and well-run organization are the “cat’s meow?” It’s the best we have, but can they be improved, can the formulas be more representative, transparent and holistic? How could donor insight and response from the community served add to a convergence of both [...]

By | May 8th, 2013|Categories: Philanthropy|0 Comments

Bookmark: The Athena Doctrine: How Women (and the Men Who Think Like Them) Will Rule the Future by John Gerzema and Michael D’ Antonio

Bookmark: The Athena Doctrine: How Women (and the Men Who Think Like Them) Will Rule the Future by John Gerzema and Michael D' Antonio Good news awaits the reader of the extraordinary and inspiring stories in The Athena Doctrine by John Gerzema and Michael D' Antonio. The authors describe women and men who lead innovative organizations with the skills, values, and attributes usually associated with women. The results of quantitative research compiled from 64,000 people surveyed in 13 nations provide conclusive evidence why collaboration, empathy, and listening qualities are what the world needs now. In a time when interdependence and transparency rank high as qualities necessary for success, the attributes of a "zero-sum game" leadership style is no longer [...]

By | May 3rd, 2013|Categories: Book Reviews|0 Comments